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Monday, September 13, 2010

The age of calm

I heard it somewhere that 28 is the age when one is at his/ her peak.

Do not date or be in a relationship with anyone who’s 28 or turning 28. You’ll just be asking for heartache.

Another friend quips that it doesn’t have to be 28. It could be any age wherein your hormones are at its craziest, when your pheromones are at its strongest. Or simply put, you are seemingly at your most beautiful, and you find yourself with more girls or guys at your mercy.

But after that age, things suddenly calms down. Things start to come steadily in your life, like one lego over the other, slowly building a more stable structure. And you find yourself unconsciously gearing towards a more permanent goal.

Me? 24 was possibly my 28. Not that I did anything outrageous during that age, but lemme just leave all those gory details to your guessing.

And now, a year before my 28, I find myself trying to build my own permanent structure. That everything I have are lego blocks that I’d wish to have permanently in my life.

That I find myself in a more designed path where I tend to prioritize all those that I deem important, and I suddenly find myself seriously seeking the advice of those beyond my years.

That I find myself wanting more out of what life can give me. Both material and not. A car, a new business venture, my own dream house (a cycle that goes back again to the car, but upgrading itself to a pick up truck LOL).

And though I admit, I am still quite far from finishing my own permanent structure, each day I find myself trying to get that unwavering focus on my goals. One day at a time.

It might’ve taken me too long to reach this, but at least for now I can say, “no more games, this is now the real deal.”

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P.S.
And yes geek, you’re right, it’s time to be “secure.” Hehe.

19 mga umutot:

jonathan said...

This is an early realization which is great. Good luck to all your endeavours and I pray for your success.

Toilet Thoughts said...

Thanks Phi Jon. you too. get well soon. when I get to have my vacation in Thailand I want you well. ok? =P

bulakbolero.sg said...

nice. \m/

i want build my own permanent structure also. soon....

Nimmy said...

is this what you call Quarter Life Crisis? hihi :)

red the mod said...

It's when you're most tranquil. When problems seem all too surmountable, and hardships are but transient visitations. When you realize that dreams are attainable, and start testing your convictions in attaining them.

Some people go well into middle-age never reaching this point. To those who do, even at a younger age, life truly becomes a journey, not a struggle, a discovery, not a situation.

Toilet Thoughts said...

@bulakbolero: bago ang lahat, inuman na!

@Nimmy: matagal nakong tapos sa quarter life crisis no! si Ewik ang nag qquarter life crisis ngyn. hahaha.

@Red: thanks red. aja! (wala tlga akong kwenta mag comment) =P

Kane said...

Ahhh permanence. Does it really exist? When what we build can be easily destroyed.

"That I find myself wanting more out of what life can give me. Both material and not."

Wonder what the non-material things are =)

Kane

Toilet Thoughts said...

ay kane, believe it or not, i kinda missed you. takot lang ako sayo. lol. and me kasalanan pako. I still have your book. =)

hmmm... good point, for in reality nothing really is permanent, only change is. But for my post, what defines this stage in life is not that which is permanent, but is the perseverance to make things permanent. Like relationships, we all try to make it last, no matter how much we think that it won't. We dream of forever. And it's in striving that we make the end of "permanence" all too meaningful.

Kinda related to what Thomas Carlyle said, "Permanence, perseverance and persistence in spite of all obstacles, discouragements, and impossibilities: It is this, that in all things distinguishes the strong soul from the weak."

Mu[g]en said...

"Do not date or be in a relationship with anyone who’s 28 or turning 28. You’ll just be asking for heartache."

Indeed.

MarcoPaolo said...

Very well said.

paci said...

nyahahaha!!!

NOW I KNOW!!! =)

Kane said...

I hate you. Kinda lang???

Pagbalik ng book, dalawa na raw dapat. =)

Kane

Toilet Thoughts said...

@Mugen: you agreed... and you're 28... thus... haha. kidding.

@marco: =)

@Paci: WHAT do you know? di ko gets. hahaha. ano meron?

@Kane: well, kelangan subtle muna ang pagka miss, para di halatang namiss tlga. ang tagal na nating di nagkita. hehe same number padin ba? :)

Kane said...

It has been ages. The seasons have changed.

Same number, I lost my phone so please text me yours =)

Kane

the geek said...

ill just smile at you. remember me one day when you are already and completely secure... :)

Manech said...

I had it way younger, probably 20 or 21. What can I say? I'm an early worm.

I like these sentences the most

"I find myself trying to build my own permanent structure. That everything I have are lego blocks that I’d wish to have permanently in my life."

because I was fond of legos when I was a kid, and I like permanent structures. The issue of permanence is always arguable, of course, but we can fight hard enough to have things stay, can't we?

Toilet Thoughts said...

@Kane: hmmm. "seasons have changed," wonder what kind of kane will i see next.

@geek: che!

@manech: "... we can fight hard enough to have things stay." --> true. oh, and I love legos too!

RICO said...

BY THE TIME I REACHED 23. MY VIEWS IN LIFE SUDDENLY CHANGE. IM NOW FOCUSING ON HAVING A STABLE CAREER AND FULFILLING SOME CHILDHOOD DREAMS.

BEING IN YOUR TWENTIES, DEFINITELY MAKES U MATURE AND TO BE IN A POINT OF REALIZING THE IRONIES OF LIFE.

Toilet Thoughts said...

@Rico: UNA SA LAHAT, HINDI KA DIN GALIT SA CAPS LOCK NO????? HAHAHA!

PANGALAWA, WALA LANG. SALAMAT SA PAG BISITA. LOL

ay onga pala, "being in your twenties definitely makes u mature?" hindi rin. minsan akala mo lang mature ka na sa mga napagdaanan mo, pero hindi parn talga. bow.

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